Nurturing a boy into a mature, godly man hardly happens by accident. In fact, Columbus’ Jeff Logston believes a father must be intentional in his guidance to see such a development.
“If you don’t have a target you can purposely aim at, the odds of getting what you want are very slim,” Logston said.
That’s one reason Logston and Dean Layman, also a dad, will lead an eight-week class, “Raising Modern-day Knights,” beginning Feb. 6 at Columbus’ First Christian Church. The classes, based upon Robert Lewis’ Christian book, “Raising a Modern-day Knight,” are open to any father.
The book and class use medieval times to highlight the distinct path a boy followed from being a page to being a squire to advancing to a knight. The class will focus on three keys for dads to teach boys (and for the dads to model themselves): Rejecting passivity, accepting responsibility and living a cause bigger than yourself.
“So, this isn’t particularly about telling dads to say to their sons, ‘Hey — let’s go play some catch,’” Logston said.
Logston said he has been practicing the book’s principles for almost two years with his 13-year-old son, Cameron. He said the one activity that any father can begin to share with his son is volunteering — at church or anywhere else. That teaches a boy in a practical way that they have a responsibility to others, he said.
Layman, father to two sons, ages 18 and 21, can vouch that the book’s principles work. In fact, he said his adult daughter grew up under the same expectations as his sons.
“And she ended up leading her future husband to faith in Christ,” Layman said.
He also mentioned that any father can learn to demonstrate the book’s concepts — and encourage a boy to adopt them.
“It’s not rocket science,” Layman said. “It’s about giving them opportunities to grow.”
Book author Lewis encourages dads to finds ways to offer encouragement in the journey.
“Keep a record of ‘glimpses’ of manhood you see in your son,” Lewis recently wrote on the Facebook page for “Raising Modern-day Knights.”
“Make it a point to mention them from time to time (such as), ‘Son, when I think about the man you are becoming, I often remember that moment when you ________ . As you did that, all I could think of was, ‘My son is growing into a real man!’”