Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married for 12 years. We have three boys. My wife is a high school teacher. She teaches higher-level math, and we have always had her students over at our house for help outside of school.
I have always been supportive of this, but last year she had a student who didn’t really need help come over. This student has a job and family in the same town, but he has basically moved in with us.
We have a family vacation coming up and my wife invited him and a friend of his to go with us. I wasn’t asked beforehand. Now it seems that because of the lack of space in the vacation house, I have been basically disinvited — it will just be the kids, the two teens and my wife there.
I have tried to talk to her, but she doesn’t seem to see where I am coming from.
Am I making too much of this?
— Very Frustrated
Dear Frustrated: You have a voice, and you need to use it. Stop trying to explain yourself, and start exerting your right to be a full partner in your marriage and family. That includes the right to call out your wife’s outrageous behavior.
No teacher should conduct tutoring sessions at her home. No teacher should invite a student to live with her — unless the student is a foreign exchange student, and with permission of the school.
