Helpful man poses a #MeToo riddle

Dear Amy: I like to think that I am a caring and sensitive man — one who respects women and appreciates the spirit of the #MeToo movement.

A recent experience has me disturbed.

One recent evening, I was with a woman that I know well. We had drinks before, during and after dinner.

It became apparent to me that she was quite intoxicated and probably should head to bed to sleep it off. I helped her up the stairs to the bathroom. After a few minutes, when I heard the bathroom door open. This is when things got “tricky.”

She was naked, and she made strong sexual advances toward me.

I knew that the “right” thing to do was to help her get dressed and into bed for sleep, and then go on about my own business. But I was weak. We engaged in sexual activity, and during the acts I believed there was a possibility that the next day she would not remember

Have I committed “date rape”? Am I a “predator”?

— Wondering Husband

Dear Husband: Let’s establish at the outset that no, you are not a caring and sensitive man. No, you do not respect the #MeToo movement. That much is quite obvious.

Taking the scenario you describe at face value — yes, you sexually assaulted your wife. She was drunk; you were sober. She wasn’t able to consent to sex — not that you asked her.

No, you did not commit “date rape.” You did, however, commit “marital rape.” You pursued an incapacitated woman for the purpose of having sex with her. Yes, this makes you a predator.