Dear Amy: My husband is a good person. We have a “great” relationship and we love each other, but we both have had a past that we are not proud of (cheating on exes about 10 years ago).
The problem is that it seems that I moved on from the past and am focused on the present — on being a good wife and mother to my kids.
I love this guy with all my heart and want this relationship to work, but I can’t stand him being offensive toward me anymore. It gets to a point where he has pushed me to the floor or slapped me because he remembered that I was with other guys before him.
I have never offended him in any way. I’m faithful and loving to him, but it seems he can’t get past the idea that I had a past.
Should I leave, or keep fighting for my marriage?
— Hurting
Dear Hurting: You should leave, and you should leave as quickly as you can. Your children are young; your husband is violent. You need to protect yourself and your children. It’s that simple.
All of your efforts should go into protecting yourself and your children, and leaving safely.
Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline today (Thehotline.org or 800-799-7233). You can call or communicate with a counselor through their 24/7 online “chat” function.
